I have realized why I feel so different when I'm around my other single Jewish friends, and it's not because I've been divorced.

It seems most of the people I talk to are looking for a "soulmate" who will make them complete. This applies to guys too, although some of them may just be talking that way to get the women.

The thing is, I am complete. For that matter, I'm much more of a complete person now than I ever was when I was married. I don't know if nobody else feels that way, or if it is simply not socially correct to admit it. It's certainly not meant as a judgement towards anyone. It's a statement about me and who I am.

What I'm looking for (when I'm looking) is somebody else who feels the same way. I'm looking for a man who will enhance my life, not fill in some void that's supposed to be caused by the lack of metal around my finger.

I hope this doesn't mean I make men feel like they are worthless to me. Sometimes there's nothing like cuddling to wind down from a busy day.

I guess I just don't want to look around one day and have it be too late.

-CRbE